Want Love Again? Forgive.



You can't fit new love into a heart that's already full of love ... or something else, any more than you can fit a new wardrobe into an already over-flowing closet.

To the extent you want to welcome new love into your heart and life, you must consider letting go of all of the anger, hatred and homicidal thoughts you have for your ex.

My daughter is really upset with someone right now, and I was explaining to her today that forgiveness is an inside act. The other person doesn't even have to know you've forgiven them. You don't have to invite them over for Easter dinner, or spend hours on the phone with them, or even be more than cordial to them when you see them.

New book: If Divorce is a Game, These are the Rules: 8 Rules for Thriving Before, During and After Divorce


Buy the book in paperback or ebook.


Facing a divorce, and the life that comes after it, isn't easy. If you are struggling to figure out how to get through your divorce emotionally, physically, practically, or mentally, or you have been divorced for some time yet still find yourself bitter, sad, angry or resentful, If Divorce is a Game, These are the Rules provides the road map to turn your divorce into your personal breakthrough and design the new life of your choosing.

Honoree Corder, author of The Successful Single Mom book series and The Successful Single Dad, has once again used her experience and deep understanding of the turmoil of divorce to help those going through their own divorce walk through the process, step-by-step, with minimal stress while maintaining their sanity and integrity.

What People are Saying:

"I love this book! It is such an easy read and a great reminder for people who are going through a divorce, or who have gone through a divorce, to try to continue to look on the positive side of things. Even if they were not the person who initiated the journey, this book reminds them they will be okay!!! This feeling may not be immediate, and feeling the lows and struggles, and anger is natural in any occasion. Remember, even though you will get caught up in the 'divorce weeds' on
occasion, don't allow yourself to get stuck in them -- use your resources (counselors, friends, family) to get out and back on your feet. Two years may seem like a very long time in the beginning; however, it flies by. Thanks for being such a great role model!" ~Jill Ozias, single mom, financial advisor  

Single Moms Can Get Rich!

Earn More Money, Support Your Kids, and Balance Work and Family

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The majority of the requests I get from single moms is how to make enough to support their children while balancing life in general. I think we can all agree: as a single income family, with or without child support, it's imperative you earn more than enough to provide for your children.

I use the word imperative because there's one thing I know for sure: a stressed-out person is not their happiest, best and most resourceful self. A single mom stressed out about money, well, she can sometimes be a beast. Don't you agree?

Coolest Co-Parenting Tool EVER!

Recently, I received the coolest gift: a "Home Tweet Home" Parenting Time Calendar from my friends over at Enlightened Littles.

Here it is, hanging in my foyer:


And a more professional shot so you can see how pretty it really is:

If this isn't the absolutely coolest way for kids to plot and plan their visits at mom and dad's house, I don't know what is!

The sturdy metal calendar has magnetic moms and dads that your kids can move around so they'll know what days they will be at moms house, dads house, and when they are changing homes.



If there's anything I know for sure, it's that kids love to be certain about what's happening. In the midst of a divorce or going from home to home, having a visual reference that's terrific no matter how small your kids are, can really help kids wrap their arms and minds around where they will be and when.

I'm so grateful to have this tool now, and I wish it existed a dozen years ago when I got my divorce!

Order your "Home Tweet Home" Parenting Time Calendar and check out the other cool tools the Enlightened Littles peeps have for you. You and your kids will be glad you did! 

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Guest Blog by Divorce Coach Chris St. Clair: Co-Parenting My Way
The Co-Parenting Cheat Sheet